Whatever you choose right now is destined to be your future.
Would you agree that everything happens to you totally depends on what decisions you make?
Whatever you are today is because you have chosen this few months or few years back, directly or indirectly. All the good and the bad if any, whatever it is today you are the creator of this life.
If you want to start a fit lifestyle it all depends on what healthy choices you decide in your everyday meals & how much you prioritise to exercise everyday.
If you want to get a muscular body it all depends on how much weights you can lift & how frequently you workout.
If you decide to not get involved in a random fight on the road then you have succeeded in choosing peace for yourself.
If you have decided not to get involved in a gossip about a friend who is not around right now, you just made more mentally healthy choice.
We all are in a way influenced by how we are brought up & what values & beliefs we have been taught through family & traditions, mostly culture. You are what you choose. Your words & very importantly your actions define you my dear friend. If you say something & do something else, well the real you are what did, not what you said. As we know humans are the only dependable creatures comparing to all other living beings on this earth, we need a community to survive, whether it could be to sell your business products or even to just hang around to laugh or talk.
But should we allow these influences to decide what life we want to live?
Lets not forget that we have only one lifeline & we all would want to go through this process called LIFE beautifully & successfully and this can be achieved happily only if you take your own decisions. Often because of these influences around we choose what is suitable to stay in community & thus it’s never enough to keep doing what pleases different people around us. And we get carried away so much that we forget ‘what makes you individually happy?’ In a way we allow these influences to decide how we are living our life. This actually lowers your conviction to decide things or even achieve your goals, if you could still set up your goals with such low conviction.
How to take decisions when you are really confused? – First do the hardest part, let go of all the influences/people around you. You could do it inwardly or you could actually isolate yourself in a space where only you & your thoughts are in control. Now its easy, ask yourself what would I & only I choose in whatever decision you need to make, the answer will just flow through you, ofc with all questions & buts. Still it will be clear that this is what I want to choose. Next part is when you have decided what you & only you want to do, make sure you give an explanation if needed only to your loved ones who will eventually support you & if they don’t immediately, give them some time. Don’t forget these are your loved ones right? So they will come back to you. Till then stay in touch with them, keep conveying them that whatever decision you have made doesn’t have to do with anything against them but you still love them. And people in the fullness of time accept the change even though they don’t favour it.
Life is a matter of choices. And every choice you make makes you. – John C. Maxwell
Conclusion – There is no good or bad decision. Every decision you make is a good one as you have chosen it for yourself. This quick tip that might help, never decide for others not even for your children, instead help them to make their own decisions. Confidence is the best lifetime gift you could give to your child. Don’t rule your loved ones’ lives, don’t own their life, help them design their own life & be the world-class guru for them.