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Since this is the month we are finding our own pain-points and learning about Stress.
This is another chapter wherein we are talking about how Stress effects relationships and family.
There are certain things in life that we tend to take casually but can be major barriers in our relationships. Before moving on below are the list of questions that you need to find out to better understand what’s going wrong in your family.
- What are you concerned about?
- What is lacking in your family or your relationship?
- What is that one thing that’s making you unhappy?
- Why are you not able to control your anger issues?
- Why are you not giving enough time to your family or relationship?
- Are you distracted from your family or wanting to avoid commitments?
If you realize that the only answer to all your problems is “Stress” then you have solved half your puzzle. Stress is a burning factor that destroys relationship and family bond. I have noted down few scenarios that occur within families because of a stressful lifestyle.
You may be under professional pressure, after having a bad day at office it might occur that you ruin a family dinner by fighting over petty things. There is no solid base for the quarrel but your mind is not at the right place. You disappoint your kids and family dozes off being sad.
The game of blame, its predominant in couples that instead of finding a solution the involvement is more on “whose fault it is?”. Under stress even if we know we are the one to be questioned we start blaming it on the partner. It’s easier to put someone else behind the bars than questioning our own conscience. It is not a healthy practice. Stress talking bounds us to perform such conversations and ruin a moment.
Loss of happy moments. This is when we focus more on expectations and cannot accept the reality. Why didn’t he call to check in? Why should I be the one to always call? Stress of relationship comes with expectations not being fulfilled. By the time you make time for each other, you may spend the whole evening fighting and return in a gloomy mood. You lose the time you can enjoy with each other. Stressing over expectations kills the time and results in failed relationships.
Stress creates distance between two loved ones. You may be sitting next to each other but are miles apart by mind & soul. Are you communicating less with your family or partner? It’s a side-effect of stress which tends to silent you out. You seclude yourself and keep feelings hidden. This causes a gap in the family.
Always being grumpy and irritated? It’s like you do not like anything around you. You are shouting, being loud, losing patience to soon, and behaving in a manner that is unhealthy for your family or relation. Too many interactions with people or family members are bothering you and you are having a heavy head. This sudden behavioral issue can rupture and hurt sentiments of your family. Are you in control of your Stress? Find out before its too late.
External Stress links that gossips around in family. You are getting to know unexpected things that may or may not be true about your loved ones. This kind of gossips causes stress which later causes trust-issues. Trust is the biggest building block in a relationship. Stress destroys the very foundation of trust in a relationship.
Stress also develops an escapist characteristic in us. People rejects responsibilities and ignores the duties. Orphan out the family members, this is one major reason why there is a sudden increase in nuclear families.
If I ask you a word that defines your relationship right now, what would it be?
A friend, family, spouse, wife, siblings, girlfriend or boyfriend will hear out your stress factors but do they empathize? It needs an expert insight and unbiased guidance to not only hear but listen to your concerns and give a solution to lead a better life and keep the family together.
I am just a call away – “Stress” demands for attention to be cured. What are you waiting for ?