Relationships are integral part of our life. We are born with blood relations to our parents, thereafter build relationship with family, friends and partner during our life. Our loved ones make the life worth living. The emotional journey will never be the same without relationships.
In the second section of Design your life we shape relationships. It’s not only about your partner that we are talking about its all the many different relationships that come our way and creates a life full of people.
It takes days and months to create a bond, a relationship and a connection, although for some it just clicks in a conversation. To continue the same relations for a lifetime is a big promise.
Our parents give birth and opens this world for us to live a fulfilling life. They guide us from Day 1 teaching values of life, directing towards right, providing us with good education and helping us differentiate the wrongs. Parents are the soul humans who plants us to this world. How we grow does not completely depend on them. They nourish us with the important nutrients and shows us the safest path, however its ultimate we who chooses.
Relationship with parents is to be treasured. Our actions towards them must always be full of gratitude, respect & love.
Pick up any from the list and share a moment giving a minute of your time to your parents:
- Make a call and ask “How are you? Did you eat well?”
- Express your gratitude through a message or in conversation.
- Surprise you parents with a small gift.
- Spend a complete day revisiting memory with parents.
- Take an evening/morning walk and have a cup of tea/coffee.
We all do so many things for love, though not always but somewhere we take our parents for granted. Since, they never ask, we don’t feel the importance to give. Little things matter, so make sure you are checking on your parents.
As an adult child you must take care of your parents, much in the same way that your parents took care of you when you were young. In a nut-shell, the seeds that you sow today, will eventually shape the strength of the relation that you build together.
Design your life is about all the relations that you carry with you in your life. Let’s figure out your priority list from the below relations:
- God
- Self
- Spouse/Lover
- Children
- Parents and siblings
- Extended family
- Friends
- Work and professional relationships
- Communities and social organizations
- Strangers
Family, friends or lover, irrespective of the kind of relation you share it’s about commitment. Design your relations to create the happy place for you and everyone.
If you are not happy in a relation then it needs to be questioned. Near and dear ones are there to bring about the best in you. They rectify your mistakes and help you become a better person.
Yes, you may say that not all want good for you. But, to know who are the real ones it may take you a lifetime. We make sure you find yours before its too late. No one is bad however it happens that some relations just don’t work out.
You are hugely influenced by the kind of people you hang out with. So, make sure you are at the right place. Do not give space for toxic relations that drags you down in life and diverts you from your goals. Some people would want to change you as a person, change is good but you should have an awareness and not be someone you never wanted to be. Have clarity of thought and make it a point to convey it to your relations through communication.
Designing your relationships across profession may give you a huge leap of faith. Your acquaintance, peers and seniors may help you grow and reach heights if you keep the right attitude and relation. Always try to learn the good, correct the wrong and ignore the bad. Nobody is perfect! You may have different opinion or perception , have resourceful conversations and keep your point without hurting the other.
Design Your Life encourages fulfillment of vision and mission, when we are talking about relations you can keep a note of the following:
- Build Trust- Expressed love or caring that creates trust
- Have values and beliefs in your life
- Respect each other in relations.
- Communicate your thoughts.
- Provide positive influence
If you are struggling to find your tribe, try segregating based on the following traits and characters. Below is the list of emotions, and values we all as human have. Know your kind and it will be easy for you to deal with relationship in your life. Also if you find anything missing try & help that person to achieve that state so you can have an understanding to live with.
- Honesty, Integrity, Sincerity
- Respect, Honor, Politeness, Tact
- Fairness, Equality
- Acceptance, Empathy, Accommodation, Appreciation, Tolerance
- Security, Safety
- Communication, Connection, Contact
- Stability, Balance
- Harmony, Unity
- Energy, Enthusiasm, Empowerment
- Fun, Satisfying, Enjoyable
- Generosity, Compassion, Kindness
- Availability, Commitment
Not everyone is meant to be permanent, you will meet a zillion people in your life. First choose your core values, then prioritize relationship to design your life better.
Find and remember all the people you recall with the below questions. They are your treasures!
Who is the most important person in your life right now?
Who stood with you in your bad times?
Who helped you when you struggled?
Who shares the longest friendship?
Who cares for you the most?
Whom do you miss the most?
Who is that person you cannot live without?
Who do you enjoy your meals with?
Who is the person you die to go on a vacation with?
Who makes you the happiest?
